Comments on: Asking The Wrong Questions About Steve McNair

By: Beth

Beth — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 01:53:34 +0000

Here’s the thing — when I first heard the news via Twitter the first thing I thought is “that woman is not his wife.” — the reason I thought this is because a few years back, I was sitting in a bar with a friend. The friend frequents said bar about once or twice a week, knows the staff and the regulars.
As we sat there, my companion pointed at a young, blonde girl and said “see her?” Me: “yes?” – My friend: “That’s McNair’s girlfriend.” Me: “he’s married…” My friend: “yeah, he is…”

Now I don’t know if any other pretty young waitresses besides these two were in McNair’s little black book, but these two were & it sounds like a pattern to me: find a young impressionable girl, shower her with money and expensive gifts, blah blah blah…

Sooner or later, if one keeps looking for trouble, a person eventually finds it.

By: lovable liberal

lovable liberal — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 22:12:27 +0000

News reports are characterizing Sahel Kazemi as McNair's girlfriend, and that was the most probable scenario from the get-go (since she was driving a luxury vehicle registered to him), but it's still a good idea to withhold final judgement pending a factual basis for it. There are other reasons besides sex on the side he might have been seeing her. They seem unlikely in this case (less likely all the time), but that doesn't make them impossible. I have female friends who are 20 years younger than I am, and I'm not hitting on any of them.

By: Lesley

Lesley — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 17:57:38 +0000

I respectfully disagree with the person So. Beale quoted–it’s entirely possible the man still would have been murdered if he’d been at home. At this point, we still don’t know that the girlfriend pulled the trigger. We don’t know why he was shot. It’s possible–whether the GF was the murderer or not–that the killer could have committed the same crime in a different location.

Frankly, anyone who first asks why the man was with a 20-year-old isn’t very bright. That’s very clear. My question was and is, “why are they dead?”. Not that it affects me; I am just curious. Because, well it is sensational. I’d be wondering the same thing about any two people in this situation in the city where I live, though.

By: Amber

Amber — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 16:46:43 +0000

Nice, Newsy. I agree completely.

By: newscoma

newscoma — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 16:06:30 +0000

Well said, So. Beale. Great analysis.

By: Southern Beale

Southern Beale — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 15:54:18 +0000

Millions of football fans in and outside of Nashville want to know why McNair was murdered this weekend…

Someone said to me this morning, “if Steve McNair had been home with his wife and 4 sons that night, he wouldn’t have been murdered.” If we’re looking for answers to the “why” question, that’s as good a place as any to start.

I’m NOT saying he deserved what happened to him, no one deserves that. Unfortunately, we live in a society where there is easy access to guns and people too often resolve conflicts with violence. It is the particular sickness of American society.

When something tragic happens to a celebrity it can be a good learning opportunity for us all, if we choose to take it. To often we don’t. Perhaps the tragedies in S-Town Mike’s neighborhood are learning opportunities for the people who knew and loved those victims, too. They should be.

I’m afraid we never seem to learn the main lesson that crimes against the famous and ordinary alike should teach us: that we are here to love one another, love your neighbor as yourself, and treat every living thing with respect.

But what do we expect? Our government wages wars and tortures in our name; our corporations harm the environment and oppress the poor so we can have lives of wealth and ease. Our state government clears the way for people to arm themselves as if walking into a war zone just to go out to dinner.

So, this is inevitable and even predictable. As it is in the macrocosm, so it is in the microcosm. It is the pattern of the universe, repeated in our personal lives, our communities, our states, our nation, our world.

And I guess that is all I have to say about it.