Comments on: On Death, Loss And The Holidays

By: Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 01:43:20 +0000

My mom died three years ago and I still miss her. My dad died when I was 6 and I still miss him. Especially, now, around the holidays.

By: GrannyPam

GrannyPam — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 12:35:18 +0000

Sorry to hear you are in a funk. I have had my moments. I believe the memories chart us a way to go, but we still can’t helping want to recapture the wonderful, cozy concept of home for the holidays. It can be hard, real hard. God bless.

By: KK

KK — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 20:08:16 +0000

Could you have put a “Need Kleenex” warning on this? Everything you said in this post really hits home for me. The holidays are just not the same anymore without my mom either…

By: Exocentrick

Exocentrick — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 20:02:41 +0000

I like your sensitive post. Very thoughtful. My mother died from cancer when I was a little boy.

I wrote about death this morning. My post is not as sensitive as yours, but it does get poetic and thoughtful at the end. I tried to capture a little humor in dealing with such a heavy subject:

Ars Moriendi, The Art of Dying: How to die in 6 chapters.
http://exocentrick.blogspot.com/2009/11/ars-moriendi-art-of-dying-how-to-die-in.html

By: Leigh

Leigh — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 18:52:11 +0000

Hugs to you Coma.
A dear friend passed away three years ago right around Thanksgiving. I used to talk to her every day on the phone and we’d both crack each other up. Sigh.
As for family and the holidays….it brought out the worst in my family every time. I really don’t care for Xmas at all.

By: Kate

Kate — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 18:35:00 +0000

And here I was trying NOT to think of the big family affairs we use to have and how much I miss both my parents. I guess you opened that door up, and I think I’m grateful. No matter how old we get, or how long they are gone from us, those are times that live in our hearts forever.

Now, I have to go hunt down the tissue!

By: Russ

Russ — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 16:25:59 +0000

This is beautiful, ‘Coma. Much love…

By: @dancedivam

@dancedivam — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 15:25:15 +0000

These statements resonate deeply with me. I too have used the words “wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy.” Cancer is horribly cruel.

As I’ve gotten older I’ve started to better understand the wistful joy of the holidays. I picked up on it as a kid but never really understood until people weren’t there to celebrate with anymore.

By: Ron

Ron — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 15:11:43 +0000

Remind me not to read these sorts of things at work, where I can’t very well have an “allergy attack.” A sniffly, snotty, eye-runny, throat-burny “allergy attack.”

Wonderful post, Coma.

By: holly wynne

holly wynne — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 15:09:30 +0000

I named my first iPod Rufus. I really, really would have liked your mom. Our families have a lot in common as far as how we do the holidays. Much love to you, dear.

By: S

Mon, 23 Nov 2009 15:02:17 +0000

Ditto.
Beautiful post.