- I saw the best minds of my generation destroyed by madness, starving hysterical naked,
- dragging themselves through the negro streets at dawn looking for an angry fix;
- Angel-headed hipsters burning for the ancient heavenly connection
- to the starry dynamo in the machinery of night.
- Howl-Allen Ginsburg
When Tyler Clementi threw himself off the George Washington bridge last week, news organizations started to pay attention to the plight that our words and actions impact young people. In the beginning, I felt like they tried to blame new technology as Tyler was videotaped having sex and it was put on the Internet. That was heinous, there isn’t any doubt about that, but the real story eventually came out.
What has been told to these young gay people is a drum rhythm of that things will never get better. Sarah Silverman said it best.
You can’t serve your country. You are less than was screamed to the point where it finally became more effective as a whisper campaign blanketing our nation that it had become mainstream and accepted. Anderson Cooper joined countless celebrities last night talking of how bullying led to this young man, as well as countless others’ deaths. And it does exist in those schools we drive by daily. It happens in places that are supposed to be safe. For everybody.
One night? One weekend? It’s not enough.
Bullying is what our nation does these days. Urban vs. Rural. Straight Vs. Gay. Men Vs. Women. Brown Vs. White. Muslim Vs. Christian. These are things that we have been whispered to and it hangs steady in the breeze, it has become a larger monster than we could ever know how to vanquish. What kills this classism that exists? I don’t know.
We are told that we will lose things precious to us? What the hell are we going to lose other than kindness and compassion?
Words matter.Actions matter.
When a battered woman is told “she asked for it” just because she couldn’t get out, it matters. It’s more complex than that standard line, which I’ve heard thousands of times.
When thousands of transgendered women are denied healthcare, it matters.
When a child is raped, it matters.
When a house burns down while fireman just stand and watch, it matters.
Who made up these rules that we have to put down others to make ourselves in a higher elevation?
I sit here today wondering what we have become. The Golden Rule applies for everyone.