Tom Snyder, Don’t Say Gay And Alleviating Suffering

Oh yes these three things are related, people!

When I was a kid, I was very excited about a lot of things that I didn’t understand. My mom was cool and let me read just about anything. I believe that I read the Exorcist when I was about 10. She was a true believer that as long as I was reading, she’d let me read what I wanted. And when I didn’t completely understand what I was reading or watching, she would take the time to explain it to me.

I had a groovy mom, campers.

When I was little I loved staying up late. This was the 70s. We had Creature Feature, spandex, disco and Tom Snyder. I was watching Tom Snyder one evening and he kept talking about sex. I looked at my mom and said “What is sex?”

A Dubious Tom Snyder Is Unconvinced

She put her head in her hands, sighed deeply and looked somewhat embarrassed. She told me though because I had asked. I was completely and literally disgusted at the age of 10 and swore off everything that had anything to do with what seemed unseemly at the time. And please take in mind it is hard being a grown up knowing that it was Tom Snyder on the Tomorrow Show who started me on my journey about knowing what S*E*X was all about. I believe this is the reason I am a commitment phobe, people. (I tease, I keed.)

When people like Stacey Campfield introduce legislation that basically says don’t ask questions about what G*A*Y*S are or the plethora of bills that he has been running through the sausage machine and headed to the hill about, I remember my mother saying that knowledge if important.

When teaching children, we have to make sure they know everything. I don’t have kids and am a non-breeder, but I love them. So when I see this bill, I can’t help but wonder what kids will say to replace the word Gay. I don’t know but I have a feeling that it won’t be good. Teenagers can be especially cruel on a good day and I wrote back in October about bullying that has led to tragic events where young people have taken their lives.

They were suffering so they decided to check out of the big picture. Their lives were ahead of them, but they didn’t want to go through anymore pain.

Let’s break this down even further, I don’t like spiders. Spiders are mean and horrible and, in my mind at least, will eat you. Spiders exist though. Does Campy just not like gays? Does he hold gay people in the same respect that I hold spiders? Because spiders aren’t going anywhere and neither are gay people.

The one thing that I’ve always thought that was said so eloquently by Wade Munday last month was that the Democratic Party should be about “alleviating suffering.” That resonated with me. I can only say that I hope the Dems in Charge be mindful of what Munday said.

Alleviating Suffering.

That may be one of the nicest and most accurate things I’ve heard in a long time.  And we can do that if we try. It’s our job as humans not to build walls but to break them down.

I don’t know why I remember the Tom Snyder conversation with my mother this morning. She’ll be gone 13 years this month, but the one thing I do know is that she taught me everything I needed to know even if it made her uncomfortable. And she didn’t walk away from educating me about everything.

When the GOP starts legislating what we can or cannot say, it will be said anyway. This bill doesn’t alleviate suffering at all, it creates it and that may be the saddest thing of all.

5 comments for “Tom Snyder, Don’t Say Gay And Alleviating Suffering

  1. Amanda Melton
    February 3, 2011 at 9:11 am

    Trace, as always, a great post. I want to tell you again (this may be the 10th time or so) that your family was my introduction to what it means to be “liberal”. Your mom loved you and Timi so much that she allowed you space to see what the world was about. And look, both of you turned out to be terrific people. Turns out, parents who encourage free thought, are willing to answer any question truthfully and don’t demand the kids be tethered to them 24/7 have a successful plan.

  2. grandefille
    February 3, 2011 at 10:04 am

    Methinks the Campfield doth protest too much. And doth seem entirely too concerned with other folks’ privates.


    Thank Dawg you & the Homer weren’t raised to be self-centered ignorant goombahs. Instead, you are stellar examples of good folks.

    ~ sending up a toast to The Momma, who’s smiling down on her girls even as she frowns at the idiocy surrounding them ~

  3. February 3, 2011 at 10:45 am

    Gah, I miss Tom Snyder. “Fire up the colortini and watch the pictures as they fly thru the air” – the man had panache’.

  4. February 5, 2011 at 9:05 am

    “I can only say that I hope the Dems in Charge be mindful of what Munday said.”

    I wouldn’t hold my breath…

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