People Remember How You Act

There is a lesson here that you should treat people with dignity and respect, despite what you perceive of what they do because they will remember. This is very important in politics, campers. Remember that.

So the story this morning is about the guy that shot the video of Mitt Romney talking about the 47 percent. You see, he had worked on a fundraiser for Bill Clinton as well and this what he recalls.

The man, who tended bar for a company that catered to a high-end clientele, had previously worked at a fundraiser at a home where Clinton spoke. After Clinton addressed guests, the man recalled, the former president came back to the kitchen and thanked the staff, the waiters, the bartenders, the busboys, and everyone else involved in putting the event together. He shook hands, took photos, signed autographs, and praised the meal — all characteristic of the former president.

When the bartender learned he would be working at Romney’s fundraiser, his first thought was to bring his camera, in case he had a chance to get a photo with the presidential candidate.

Romney, of course, did not speak to any of the staff, bussers or waiters. He was late to the event, and rushed out. He told his dinner guests that the event was off the record, but never bothered to repeat the admonition to the people working there.

In the service industry I’ve heard tales, especially since I’ve moved to Nashville, about a lot of politicians and celebrities and how they act. One friend of mine was treated very shabbily by a very popular entertainer who is charting now that was incredibly rude when she waited on her. I’ve also heard great stories about how kind one regular, who is on a national TV show, and who stops by a local pub now and again and always just acts like one of the gang. I’ve heard countless others as well and I’m talking about how they treat the people that are waiting/serving them.

The way you treat a bartender, a waiter or someone ringing your order up at the Mapco is a sign of true character. If you treat them like crap, then you might want to take a look in the mirror. This also goes for how you treat your employees, if you break their spirit just because you can, then you are not someone I want to be around.

This only may matter for political junkies who dig Tennessee history and my beloved Hootsvillians, but I have seen Gov. Ned McWherter meet everyone in a restaurant time and time again taking a few moments to meet everyone. He did exactly what Clinton did in the linked story. He would thank them, ask their name and then as he would say ‘ease along,’ He did this when he was running for office and he did it when he wasn’t. It didn’t take much time and it meant the world to a lot of folks. It’s funny to me that I still hear McWherter stories from when he was governor from folks who talk about how he treated them when they waited on him in restaurants.

He never got a bad review, kids.

People remember things. It sticks and don’t doubt it, people will remember how you act especially if that person is a public figure.

The bottom line is that people talk and if they think you are nice, they are going to talk about it. If they think you are douche and elitist, they are going to talk about that too. If they think you are rude, the gloves come off and they let other people know.

And now everyone has a camera, smart phone, a Facebook account and are on Twitter so there is more to consider than just word of mouth. Nothing is off the record these days and just because one person says it is doesn’t mean that’s going to happen, especially when a person is dismissive as in Romney’s case or just plain rude.

Just saying …